Big Hearts are a lot to carry. I ran into a friend tonight who said those words to me, and they really stuck. They seemed to be the words that I couldn't come up with myself, but ones that I have been desperately searching for.
I wouldn't change having a big heart for anything. I love being a very caring, genuine person. Having a big heart has brought me a lot of joy in my life, but it has also brought me a lot of pain. If I could take away the pain that I feel, the pain that I have taken on for others, I would.
I often think about my purpose in life. I frankly am less focused on jobs and careers I'm suppose to have and more focused on what my purpose is in life. I have always felt like I was meant to be a Mom and this year I became one. There are definitely good days and bad days, days I feel like a failure and days I can't believe I'm so lucky. I feel a sense of purpose when it comes to her, I am her Mom, it is my job to be there for her. I feel a sense of purpose when it comes to the boys I nanny for as well. They're not all good days, but those boys bring me a lot of joy and they keep me going, even on the hard days. I think those are some of the reasons for my big heart, I have a lot of love to give. I do wonder what purpose the pain of having a big heart brings though. I seem to absorb other's pain. I try to take their pain away, and yet it causes me more pain in the end. The older I have gotten, the more I have realized that I cannot fix other people, I cannot heal them. And yet something inside me seems to attract the broken. I am broken too, I know that, and I know only I can heal myself. But the broken and damaged seem to find me, they make me feel special and I let my guard down. I let them in and then they take advantage of my big heart and they dump their emotional baggage on top of me and expect me to carry the load.
I was clearly given a big heart for a reason, and I won't change. I will never stop caring about other people more than myself (although making more time for self-love would be good for me). I will never stop being there for other people when they need it the most. But I do hope that one day I find someone who will not expect me to carry their damage as well as my own. That's all I want, someone to help carry the load because life is certainly not easy.
"Her love was the kind that movies wished they could recreate. With a big heart, that love was only meant for someone strong enough to handle it's weight. Her love wasn't for everyone." -r.h. Sin
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