Wednesday, May 9, 2012

A Reason, a Season or a Lifetime

"Reason, Season, or a Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.  Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come in to your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.  But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.


I love this poem!  It does such a good job of explaining how certain people come into your life and you wonder how you ever lived without them.  Last Monday I said: "This week...although barely started looks like it's going to be a good one!"  And while I wasn't totally right about that statement, I wasn't wrong either.  Last week I learned how special certain people in my life can make me feel.  I learned that I made more friends than I ever thought I could at a job, and that I will have many of those friends for a long time.

I have learned that life seems to give you what you need, even when you didn't know you needed it.  I think RnR was that for me.  I just wanted a new job, and what I got was way more than just a new job.  I have met some of the most amazing people and they have touched me deeply!  I have gained a family.  A dysfunctional one, but a family none the less.  It's life experiences like that, that remind me more and more what I believe my purpose in life to be.  It solidifies to me that life is not perfect, but it's the people in your life that make it all worthwhile.

I don't know that I will ever find my one true love, but I know that I will always have plenty of love in my life.  I don't know that my family will be perfect, but I know my friends are my family too and that's all you can ask for.  I don't know that I will find a career to call my own, but I know that I feel happiest when I can be there for other people.

I believe my purpose in life is to be myself.  I was born to be a Mom, there is never a doubt in my mind about that, and I hope that someday I will have kids of my own, but until then I am content to "mother" my friends.  I don't mean that as a bad thing.  I am happiest when I can give people what they need most: an ear to listen to their problems, a hug when it's just that kinda day, a place to go and escape, home cooked food when you need a good meal, the feeling that someone out there cares and loves you for exactly who you are.  I wouldn't change the joy I feel when I know I can be there for someone, for anything in this world.

There is a quote that says: "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. -Maya Angelou"  I believe that to be true, and pretty perfect for this situation.  I hope that I can live up to that quote!  I hope that I have made people feel as special as they have made me feel, and I hope that they will always remember how I made them feel.  People may come into your life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime, but at the end of the day all that really matters in life is the friends you've made, your family (blood-related or not), and the memories of all of it.